It's Tuesday and I am feeling Un- American

It is a Tuesday and no news to share. I am getting ready to go and get a hair cut. We are visiting friends this weekend and I look forward to the distraction of good friends and good company. I wish I could say hey we got our referral and s/he is beautiful, but no such luck. Waiting just sucks. Sorry to moan about it but it is the truth.

I guess all things in life are worth waiting for and I know this is no different. However, I think Chris and I are the only ones who wish summer were over so we would at least be closer to knowing more.

I have been thinking a lot about adoption in general and for us in specific. I have been asked several times why are you not adopting an American child? Many times I just ignore it and I am tired of hearing it. Yes, they need homes too. So to all who have asked me this question, why don't you go and adopt them? You apparently feel strongly enough about it to ridicule my family and my decision to start a family that you should back your words and take some action. Also I have never asked anyone who was pregnant why did you get pregnant? Why did you not adopt an American child? Just because we choose to adopt does not mean we have to be the great Americans and save every American child. No one has ever asked one of my pregnant friends why they choose to conceive over adoption. So why does every one think they have a right to have an opinion about how I start my family? In fact many people who have asked me this question have children that they created biologically and I never once have said back to them why did you have a child when there are so many American children who need to be adopted? They don't need to be adopted any more by me than they did you and yet I did not see you giving up your ability to have a child to go out and adopt. Why is it that because we are adopting we are ridiculed for making a choice to adopt from another country. To all those who question our decision to go overseas to adopt I say go fill in the blank yourself and your jugdemental attitudes about how I should decide to start my family. When I want your opinion I will ask for it. Sorry I needed to vent.

Also when I am asked the questions why did you not choose America I think they are expecting some earth shattering answer. Well here goes we choose to adopt from Vietnam. But if you feel that you are entitled to more.... We choose to adopt from Vietnam because there are children there that need homes, we have ties to the southeast Asian community, we are not bothered if our child is a different race from us, no child deserve a home more than another simply based on where they are born, after careful consideration this was our choice. If you don't like it, tough!!!

By the way So-Cal whever you are tonight just know that your dad and I know there is ignorance in the world. We will try to protect you from it but more importantly we will try our best to teach you to meet it head on and challenge it. Love you Mom.

Summer