We are finding this part of the wait very difficult. I emailed our coordinator knowing she cannot give me specifics, but I wanted to know something at least. She said we are second in line that another family sent in their dossier June 2 then we sent ours at the end of June. Our dossier has been translated and is where it needs to be. She said they should be handing out some infant referrals soon. What does soon mean next week, next month, a few days? Anyhow after they (VN authorities) give out the referrals then the medicals need to be done and then they can match us with a baby. What the time line is, who knows? All we know is soon.
It is very hard to contain our curiosity and excitement at this point. However we are enjoying being childless for the next few months. We have gone to bed when we felt like it. We are getting up on the weekends when we feel like it. We have gone to late movies. We have gone out to eat. Chris bought his last indulgence an X BOX 360. We have been taking the dogs on long walks. We spent last weekend with our college friends and had a blast.
I bought a crib and mattress last night from Target online. I cannot wait to get it so the basic necessities of nursery furniture will be bought and put together.
Just keep us in your thoughts and prayers as we wait.
Summer
Thursday, July 20, 2006
Tuesday, July 11, 2006
It's Tuesday and I am feeling Un- American
It is a Tuesday and no news to share. I am getting ready to go and get a hair cut. We are visiting friends this weekend and I look forward to the distraction of good friends and good company. I wish I could say hey we got our referral and s/he is beautiful, but no such luck. Waiting just sucks. Sorry to moan about it but it is the truth.
I guess all things in life are worth waiting for and I know this is no different. However, I think Chris and I are the only ones who wish summer were over so we would at least be closer to knowing more.
I have been thinking a lot about adoption in general and for us in specific. I have been asked several times why are you not adopting an American child? Many times I just ignore it and I am tired of hearing it. Yes, they need homes too. So to all who have asked me this question, why don't you go and adopt them? You apparently feel strongly enough about it to ridicule my family and my decision to start a family that you should back your words and take some action. Also I have never asked anyone who was pregnant why did you get pregnant? Why did you not adopt an American child? Just because we choose to adopt does not mean we have to be the great Americans and save every American child. No one has ever asked one of my pregnant friends why they choose to conceive over adoption. So why does every one think they have a right to have an opinion about how I start my family? In fact many people who have asked me this question have children that they created biologically and I never once have said back to them why did you have a child when there are so many American children who need to be adopted? They don't need to be adopted any more by me than they did you and yet I did not see you giving up your ability to have a child to go out and adopt. Why is it that because we are adopting we are ridiculed for making a choice to adopt from another country. To all those who question our decision to go overseas to adopt I say go fill in the blank yourself and your jugdemental attitudes about how I should decide to start my family. When I want your opinion I will ask for it. Sorry I needed to vent.
Also when I am asked the questions why did you not choose America I think they are expecting some earth shattering answer. Well here goes we choose to adopt from Vietnam. But if you feel that you are entitled to more.... We choose to adopt from Vietnam because there are children there that need homes, we have ties to the southeast Asian community, we are not bothered if our child is a different race from us, no child deserve a home more than another simply based on where they are born, after careful consideration this was our choice. If you don't like it, tough!!!
By the way So-Cal whever you are tonight just know that your dad and I know there is ignorance in the world. We will try to protect you from it but more importantly we will try our best to teach you to meet it head on and challenge it. Love you Mom.
Summer
I guess all things in life are worth waiting for and I know this is no different. However, I think Chris and I are the only ones who wish summer were over so we would at least be closer to knowing more.
I have been thinking a lot about adoption in general and for us in specific. I have been asked several times why are you not adopting an American child? Many times I just ignore it and I am tired of hearing it. Yes, they need homes too. So to all who have asked me this question, why don't you go and adopt them? You apparently feel strongly enough about it to ridicule my family and my decision to start a family that you should back your words and take some action. Also I have never asked anyone who was pregnant why did you get pregnant? Why did you not adopt an American child? Just because we choose to adopt does not mean we have to be the great Americans and save every American child. No one has ever asked one of my pregnant friends why they choose to conceive over adoption. So why does every one think they have a right to have an opinion about how I start my family? In fact many people who have asked me this question have children that they created biologically and I never once have said back to them why did you have a child when there are so many American children who need to be adopted? They don't need to be adopted any more by me than they did you and yet I did not see you giving up your ability to have a child to go out and adopt. Why is it that because we are adopting we are ridiculed for making a choice to adopt from another country. To all those who question our decision to go overseas to adopt I say go fill in the blank yourself and your jugdemental attitudes about how I should decide to start my family. When I want your opinion I will ask for it. Sorry I needed to vent.
Also when I am asked the questions why did you not choose America I think they are expecting some earth shattering answer. Well here goes we choose to adopt from Vietnam. But if you feel that you are entitled to more.... We choose to adopt from Vietnam because there are children there that need homes, we have ties to the southeast Asian community, we are not bothered if our child is a different race from us, no child deserve a home more than another simply based on where they are born, after careful consideration this was our choice. If you don't like it, tough!!!
By the way So-Cal whever you are tonight just know that your dad and I know there is ignorance in the world. We will try to protect you from it but more importantly we will try our best to teach you to meet it head on and challenge it. Love you Mom.
Summer
Thursday, June 22, 2006
Waiting for So-Cal
That is our new combined boy girl name So-Cal Rujamin.
Seriously our dossier aka adoption paperwork stuff is in Hanoi. So now we wait the alloted 30-90 days for a referral. If this adoption is not over soon I may lose my job I have this restless energy that springs from being so close yet seemingly a long way off. Therefore I am having great difficulty staying focused. It could also be that I am a little burned out since I am trying to conserve time off for my maternity leave. It has not seemed that bad to wait before now because we were not done with paperwork and not done with the dossier. We always had one more tick of the list. The list is now ticked and the next thing we await is a call and an email stating this, Chris and Summer, is your child.
We have started putting the nursery together. We have a rocker, a changing table, a high chair ( I know this is not nursery), a play pen, and a busted crib for which I have recieved a refund, and the day bed. Now we are looking for a white crib if anyone has one.
It is hard to go much further until we know who our little one will be. I am so excited and nervous and a little scared all at the same time. It is just nice to know that with any good luck and timing we will be parents before the end of the year. I just cannot wait. My parents will have 5 grand children including two new additions and my mother in law will be celebrating her first.
It is so hard not to be able to look into the future and just know even if it is for the sake of knowing right now.
I go on looking at all the adoption groups, and the adoption agency website, and my own email everyday knowing I won't find anyhing, but it keeps idle hands and brain occupied. I am trying to muster the energy up to really clean the house, but I feel like I should just hold off and do it just before going to Vietnam so that everything will be perfect or at least close to perfect when So-Cal arrives.
This rambling tonight is just a product of that nervous energy.
I offer this little thought to So-Cal. Whoever you are and what ever you are doing we cannot wait to meet you. We hope your name and ours gets to the top of that pile of paper sooner than later, but whatever length of time it takes we will wait as patienly as possible until we finally meet. I would like to have a fantasy meeting where you just melt into us but likley if you are to fit into our family you will poop on your dad and scream wildly at me. Somehow we will fit together. Either way we will love you and try to provide you with a good family. We are going to try our best not to screw you up, but be patient with us we are going to be very new at this. We are getting your room ready and don't worry the dogs are banned. They are angry about this but they are banned. We are trying to use this waiting period wisely by getting as much stuff done as we can around the house. Your job is to stay safe, eat as much as you can, and wait for us to come and take you to your home in Walkertown. Oh, by the way, your father sat in the living room tonight with coat hangers on his head so let me warn you...you have no idea what life has in store for you, but it will be a fabulous trip. Can't wait to meet you. God Bless You. I Love You, Mom, mommy, mother, or whatever name you are going to call me
............Summer
Seriously our dossier aka adoption paperwork stuff is in Hanoi. So now we wait the alloted 30-90 days for a referral. If this adoption is not over soon I may lose my job I have this restless energy that springs from being so close yet seemingly a long way off. Therefore I am having great difficulty staying focused. It could also be that I am a little burned out since I am trying to conserve time off for my maternity leave. It has not seemed that bad to wait before now because we were not done with paperwork and not done with the dossier. We always had one more tick of the list. The list is now ticked and the next thing we await is a call and an email stating this, Chris and Summer, is your child.
We have started putting the nursery together. We have a rocker, a changing table, a high chair ( I know this is not nursery), a play pen, and a busted crib for which I have recieved a refund, and the day bed. Now we are looking for a white crib if anyone has one.
It is hard to go much further until we know who our little one will be. I am so excited and nervous and a little scared all at the same time. It is just nice to know that with any good luck and timing we will be parents before the end of the year. I just cannot wait. My parents will have 5 grand children including two new additions and my mother in law will be celebrating her first.
It is so hard not to be able to look into the future and just know even if it is for the sake of knowing right now.
I go on looking at all the adoption groups, and the adoption agency website, and my own email everyday knowing I won't find anyhing, but it keeps idle hands and brain occupied. I am trying to muster the energy up to really clean the house, but I feel like I should just hold off and do it just before going to Vietnam so that everything will be perfect or at least close to perfect when So-Cal arrives.
This rambling tonight is just a product of that nervous energy.
I offer this little thought to So-Cal. Whoever you are and what ever you are doing we cannot wait to meet you. We hope your name and ours gets to the top of that pile of paper sooner than later, but whatever length of time it takes we will wait as patienly as possible until we finally meet. I would like to have a fantasy meeting where you just melt into us but likley if you are to fit into our family you will poop on your dad and scream wildly at me. Somehow we will fit together. Either way we will love you and try to provide you with a good family. We are going to try our best not to screw you up, but be patient with us we are going to be very new at this. We are getting your room ready and don't worry the dogs are banned. They are angry about this but they are banned. We are trying to use this waiting period wisely by getting as much stuff done as we can around the house. Your job is to stay safe, eat as much as you can, and wait for us to come and take you to your home in Walkertown. Oh, by the way, your father sat in the living room tonight with coat hangers on his head so let me warn you...you have no idea what life has in store for you, but it will be a fabulous trip. Can't wait to meet you. God Bless You. I Love You, Mom, mommy, mother, or whatever name you are going to call me
............Summer
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